A week ago I arrived in Paris, an old home of mine. As we edged towards the middle of May, Autumn had well and truly taken hold in Australia (although thankfully the weather was unseasonably warm) and it was time for me to head to the Northern Hemisphere where the days are getting longer and warmer in the lead up to summer.
Why am I doing this? Because I’ve decided to take my life on the road and live an endless summer (ok so technically it’s spring and summer, but that doesn’t have quite the same ring to it).
For me the idea of being able to split my time between the Southern and Northern Hemispheres and constantly chase the sunshine is the ultimate dream. And it’s a dream that has now become my reality.
As I sit here on the edge of the Canal St Martin in Paris, basking in the never-ending daylight of a European evening in May, I have to pinch myself that this is real. This is my life. And I have created it.
I’m not telling you this to gloat. There are few things more annoying than privileged Westerners blogging about how good they’ve got it. I’m telling you this because I’m so grateful for the life I now have and I want you to know that whatever your version of an ideal life is, there are some really simple and practical things you can do to create that life for yourself.
Because believe me, it wasn’t always like this.
In fact, it wasn’t that long ago I was sitting in a job that I hated, willing the hours away. I used to dread going to bed every night because I knew that when the alarm went off in the morning I’d have to drag myself out of bed to do it all over again.
It wasn’t that long ago that I was feeling pretty trapped and isolated in my life in Australia. Wishing I could somehow find a way to spend more time abroad each year than the 4 weeks annual leave I was allocated, yet not wanting to permanently relocate again and find myself 17,000km away from the sun and sand that I call home.
I felt lost. I felt bored. I was restless. And I couldn’t see a way out.
So what changed?
I decided there must be a better way. Surely I hadn’t been put on this earth to feel lost and bored, going through the motions in a job that I hated with no real purpose. That didn’t seem to make any sense.
I began with a simple step. I started paying more attention to the media and content I was consuming.
I stopped watching and listening to mainstream media (a significant shift away from my TV producer past) that was flooding my head with negativity, fear and a list of reasons why I couldn’t live the way that I wanted to live.
I started tuning in to inspiring people with positive messages that helped me to see that the opposite was true and I could pretty much create whatever life I wanted to. And guess what? They were right.
Brene Brown, Danielle LaPorte, Jonathan Fields, Marie Forleo, Simon Sinek, Pat Flynn, Megan Dalla-Camina, Natalie Sisson, Rob Bell, Seth Godin, Marianne Williamson and Elizabeth Gilbert were right.
I started implementing their advice and changing the way that I lived my life.
And here I am. A mere 2.5 years on from my nightmare job and miserable existence, to living my version of a dream life.
I’m in Paris until July and then I’ll head off to Sweden for a couple of months before returning to Sydney in September, just in time for Spring and the return of sunshine and warmth.
So how do you go about creating your ideal life? Well the first step is to get very clear on what that life actually looks like. Because once you have a clear picture of where you want to be, there are some very real steps that you can take to move you towards that vision.
I’m not saying that an endless summer and constant travel is everyone’s idea of an ideal life, but I’d love to know what your version is. Have you ever stopped to think about how you would describe your ideal life? Have you ever taken the time to reflect on whether the life you’re living is actually the life you want to be living? Have you ever asked yourself if there could be another way? A better way? A happier way?
If you have, that’s amazing. I’d love to hear your stories of how you’re living your ideal life. And if you haven’t, then I’ve created a completely free audio exercise to take you through this first step of getting clear on what your vision is for your ideal life.
If you can put aside 15 minutes to listen to the audio and write down the answers to the questions I ask, you might find yourself a whole lot clearer on the type of life you want to create. Just go to my home page and pop your name and email address in and you’ll get a copy of my audio exercise, no strings attached. I’ve created it in English and French, so just pick the language that’s most helpful for you.
I can’t wait to hear how you go with this exercise.
PS – If you know someone who could benefit from this exercise, then please send them along to my website so that they can download the exercise and start creating their ideal life today