In the online world we hear so much about the good days. The days when everything is going great. The days when we’re hanging out with friends, catching the sunrise, eating at the latest restaurant, swimming in the ocean and generally having a good ol’ time. Myself included. I’m usually writing and posting about how much I love my life and the amazing stuff that’s happening in my world. Because a lot of the time it’s true. And really, who wants a snapshot on Instagram of your shitty day?
But when you’re constantly seeing and hearing about how great everyone’s life is, it can be even more frustrating when you’ve had a bad day and you just want to curl up on the couch.
Because there are shitty days. Days that suck. Days that you just want to get over and done with. Even when you’re travelling. It’s not all cocktails by the beach or trekking through the Himalayas. Sometimes there are shitty days. And sometimes, they’re more frequent than that.
So what do you do with these days? Do you just wait them out and hope that tomorrow is better?
That’s definitely an option.
But there’s always another option. A way to process your day and take the shittiness and learn something from it. Here’s a list of 10 questions you can ask yourself at the end of a shitty day.
- What did I dislike about today?
- Was there someone or something in my day that drained my energy?
- How was I rude, critical or unkind to myself today?
- How did I sabotage myself today?
- What behaviour or action am I less than proud of today?
- Is there anything I need to forgive myself for today?
- What lessons did I learn today?
- What will I do differently tomorrow?
- What type of person do I want to be tomorrow?
- What do I need to do to be that person?
Don’t spend too much time mulling it over and trying to think of all the things that went wrong. This is not supposed to turn into an essay of self-loathing. This is a quick release. If nothing springs to mind when you read some of these questions, then that’s perfectly okay. But if something jumps out and is on the tip of your tongue then purge it. Release it with the day, ready to start afresh. It’s the healthiest way I know to vent and make a conscious decision to take positive action tomorrow.
And if you really want to turn your shitty day around, then once you’ve answered these 10 questions, move straight on to gratitude and name 3 things that you’re grateful for today.